I can still remember writing my end of the year reflection this
time last year. Simply put, it had been a GOOD year for us- a year of
adventures and new life and fun times and business endeavors and growth. And I
wrote a brief recap of all these things, thanking God, and expressing
excitement over the year to follow. Now, I've been thanked and recognized for
being an honest writer. So allow me to be honest.
I was not fully honest when I wrote that post.
I was thankful for how GOOD that year was.
I was excited about what was to come.
But mostly, I was terrified.
You see, I hold the title of "World's Worst Person at
Dealing with Change." To me, change robs me of everything comfortable and
controlled and consistent in my life. And 2016 had a big change in store for
us. I felt our little family of three had just learned how to function
as a unit; and here I was, uprooting all that was known and throwing us into
the unknown.
A baby.
How were we going to function now? How many things in our daily
lives would have to shift, or even be sacrificed? It wasn't just the newborn
stage I was terrified of (though that's a huge part of it- add "World's
Worst At Parenting a Newborn" to my list of titles), it was the idea of
the unknown that had me worried.
But regardless of my worry, 2016 came. While the first few months
felt much like my "normal," May hit. And it hit with everything I
feared. I will forever remember the summer of 2016 as a very hard season. With
every night spent up with a screaming baby, with every glimpse at friends off
having summer adventures, with every struggle with a suddenly rebellious three
year old, with every day that passed with seemingly nothing accomplished, I
felt a pull towards 2015, when things were GOOD. I often wanted a time
machine to either take me back to that time, or even to propel me past where I
was.
Do you see the flaw here in my logic? The inevitable lesson I had
to learn? Because I didn't. And it wasn't until my four year old showed me this
flaw that I realized it.
In the summer, I managed to get out of the house and leave my
baby boy to take my daughter to two shows, one in Dallas for Beauty and the
Beast, and the second at the MISD Performing Arts Center to see The
Little Mermaid. While past summers were dedicated to doing many fun things
with just the two of us, those two moments were the only opportunities I had to
get out and have some mommy/Emma time. I felt a ton of guilt spending so little
time with her and worried those two outings would hardly suffice. I would often
battle anxiety that she would feel less loved and secure. But I was thankful
for those two shows, and it was obvious she had a blast.
Every day, we pass the MISD Performing Arts Center on our way to
her school. Each time, without fail, Emma points to it and exclaims,
"That's where Ariel lives, Mommy!" Then the visual reminder typically
launches us into a conversation about seeing Belle and Ariel, and how much fun
we had. A couple of weeks ago, I realized that our trips to see those two shows
are the only things she ever mentions about the summer. She never mentions a
screaming baby or a mommy breaking down randomly into tears or all the times
she had to entertain herself because her mom was too overwhelmed and busy
handling her baby bother. When I realized this, I asked her, "Emma, did
you enjoy the summer?" Surprisingly, she emphatically nodded her head and
said "Yes, it was GOOD!"
It then dawned on me. My daughter had a hard summer. She had to learn how to no longer be the only child in the house. She watched many things around her shift quickly, and none of it was in control. She rebelled against it, threw tantrums, and her normally even, sweet disposition grew angry and upset often. Yet, she never remembers that about the summer. She only remembers the GOOD.
In order to produce GOOD olive oil, the olive tree needs to
endure harsh winds, and the fruit must be pressed.
In order to produce GOOD wine, the grapes must struggle in the
heat, and the fruit must be crushed.
In order to produce GOOD pottery, the clay must be molded,
shaped, and then set into fire.
All of these processes are hard.
All of these processes are GOOD.
2016 has taught me that the two are not mutually exclusive. It
was a hard year AND it was a GOOD year. For every long night spent with
a screaming baby, there was a morning of cuddles, smiles, and coos. For every
house chore that was unfinished, there was a family member or friend to step in
and provide relief. For every dinner I simply could not cook, there was a meal
provided. For every "missed" vacation or fun
"Facebook-worthy" outing, there were milestones, new adventures, and
sweet moments. For every time I wanted to go back to 2015, there was a reminder
that I didn't get to hold and kiss and cuddle my baby boy until this year.
Blessing upon blessings, treasures and love and grace and joy all wrapped up
into only 366 days- that was our 2016.
Simply put, it has been a GOOD year for us.
Do you know what else olive oil, wine, and pottery share in common?
There is a Designer behind each of those processes. With experienced, tender,
nail-marked hands, He crafts with intentionality and purpose. He knows what His
work will accomplish. And His work always accomplishes GOOD.
2016 was good, because He is GOOD. Every single blessing,
treasure, love, grace, and joy comes from Him, and I am thankful.
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father
of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17